It is no longer a secret that nowadays many women from young to old, especially from Russia and CIS wish to get married to a foreigner. And this desire is underscored often by a misconception that life abroad -a life-dream, is a sort of fairytale came true. It takes its root from their social and economic background, schooling and peer pressure in the early '90s that in the western world, especially the U.S.A, life is fantastic. Despite this, many girls from the big cities such as Moscow and Saint Petersburg are rather reluctant to relocate because the economy and lifestyle in Moscow is now very vibrant that even many European specialists go to Moscow - due to high salaries compared even to their highly developed countries. Other preferred destinations, depending on their ethnic and religious background, are the East, Middle East and Europe.
But why do foreigners prefer to marry women from Russia? There are many reasons. But the main and the most essential reason - because it is the RUSSIAN woman! And, as everybody know, Russian women DO possess beauty, faithfulness, wisdom, understanding and many many other essential qualities that can mostly not easily be found in other women. Especially a wonderful almost unbelievable combination-bouquet of these positive qualities. Among which - that Russian woman will go after the man she loves - even to the edge of the world.
Her Heart can't be ruled. The Heart of Russian woman controls her mind and her life. And it might happen that Russian woman fall in love with a foreigner. Which means she will have to be prepared to relocate and live in his country.
And now let us give some recommendations to Russian women who are planning to relocate.
We would like to mention some factors to be seriously considered before taking a final decision to leave the motherland.
First of all, don't hurry to get married before you learn more about your fianc?e - his character, ideas, hobbies, his religious and political views, his likes and dislikes, what he is accustomed to, dietary preferences, thought processes etc. About his goals in life, his vision... And his friends and relatives.
Secondly, spend a good amount of time for scrupulous research about rules and official regulations of the country where you have to relocate to. It is not of any lesser importance than learning about the character of your future husband - anything can happen. Even, God forbid, a marriage can break up or you can be left a widow... Don't refuse to make a marriage contract. Never give up your Russian citizenship or your property in Russia. Remember, a wise person will rely on God but will "tie his camel first"
Thirdly, remember that especially in the beginning you will be ALONE there. And at times very lonely and maybe even motherland sick. So, as soon as possible, try to make new friends (females only!) - don't play with fire and don't spoil your own destiny - most of men are very jealous especially when trust is not proven and not won yet. Another important advice - no matter what he might say about his modern view on life etc - don't show him your old photo with other men, or even with your male cousin or work colleagues. In most cases it won't be understood correctly. And at best it can create suspicion, at worst - it can be a cause of serious arguments or even fights and threats for divorce.
It can also cool off his feelings for you and break his trust in you. Don't play with fire - in many countries husbands will never understand and never accept friendly relations even with your male cousins!
'But what about my husband?' will ask you. The answer is not that witty - yes, the husband will be with you. But remember, he has got his habits created over the years, his family, number of relatives, friends etc. And on top of this - most of the time he will be at work. So try to imagine and prepare beforehand what you will do alone at home.
Even if the husband will be very supportive and caring at the beginning of your marriage, with time he wont' be that happy if you will be too demanding, if you will ask too much of his free time and his consultation in everything even small insignificant things. Try to do your best to be extra nice with your husband's family & relatives and very attentive to their needs. Try to notice even the smallest details what they like, how they dress, what they like and dislike (especially your husband's mother!)
If possible, try to get a job for yourself (in internet for example as a free-lance translator or anything else internet related what you are capable of doing). In website www.free-lance.ru you can in few minutes create your profile and your portfolio (CV). Being busy with your own project will give you a feeling of independence and more faith in yourself. And your husband would be very happy for you and will proudly boast to his family and friends how creative his wife is: that even being in new country she manages in no time to get work and to run a business online…
Did you know? From Russian lady about Russian ladies...
Russians in general are very romantic. Maybe you have heard one story almost all of us were brought up with: a story about a naive young irl by the name of Assol. She decided that she will marry only the one who corresponds to her dream - that one day a kind, handsome prince of a wonderful nature will come from a far-away land, but not ordinarily, -he will come on a big RED ship. So she was waiting for such a person and people around were making fun of her. She lived in a small poor village and there were no foreigners around for ages. However one day some person from another country came to this village, saw this girl Assol in the street, and fell in love with her from the very first sight. Then he began to ask people around who she was and on receiving a response that she is a very strange girl, and that she would never accept his proposal as she is daydreaming about a prince in a Red Ship. This is exactly what he did - he realised her dream by getting red silk for the ship and returned. No wonder, she immediately accepted him and all the people in that village began to believe in miracles.
Maybe it sounds funny, but we were all (I am talking about Russian, perhaps not so much in Kazakhstan etc) brought up with the idea that one day a prince from a fairytale will come into our life. And he will be the 'One' Almighty created for us. Very romantic, perhaps not too much in tune to our modern time but ...... I dare say, we are what we believe in and what we dream of.
P.S. Regarding this story - nowadays even children are less romantic. But again in every country it is different. In Russia young ladies would still prefer ships with Red sails to a red sports car. I actually specially reviewed that story to refresh my memory - the title of the ship was "SECRET" - again about russian mystical soul, the name of the captain - Arthur Grey, by the way again typical russian fairy-tale - originally he was a hardworking fellow on that ship, then after a few years he managed to buy the ship from its owner (so he was trustworthy and hardworking), and when he found out about Assol's dream he went to the far-away shop (bazaar) and bought 2 thousand metres of red silk material for that. He paid a higher price without even bargaining. Again it shows how very non-materialistic that man was and his readiness to sacrifice etc. The Russain author's name was Alexander Green.